Okay guys. My fiance and I ar good some days, and other days not so good. We’ve been together going on 5 years. We’ve got a baby on the way. The thing is, I cant seem to get him to just chill with me, alone. (w/out friends) B/4 I got preg. all he ever wanted to do is stay home. Now that I cant do much, he always wants to go out, and not spend anytime at home w/me. We argue about this constantly. We spend all our time at one of his friends’ house, and if we go out, its like an hour. I want more time with him. I dont think I’m being selfish, I just kinda miss having one on one time w/ him lately, and it literally driving me nuts. We work totally different shifts, and dont see each other much anyway. (me-midnights him-days) What can I do to get him to understand me? Nothing I am trying to do is working. PLZ help me out…i’ll take any advice, as long as its resonable.
As for mcds—-how in the hell do you think he could be spending time w/ another woman, when I AM WITH HIM AT ALL HIS FRIENDS’ HOUSE??? YOu cant just up and assume he’s cheating. If you would of read, i put were spending all OUR (ya know, together) time at his friends house. Thanks for answering though.
tell him about it & say that u really need him, then he mite change some
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He’s spending time with another woman sadly enough…
You are no longer attractive to him and many men are repulsed by pregnant women unfortunately. Not trying to be mean but I am a man and what you described is what I did once right down to the T.
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talk to hem
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Let him know that you really love him. I’m no professional, but let him know how you feel about him. Invite him over to YOUR place. Spend time with each other.
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It sounds like he’s a bit freaked out by the pregnancy. My father did the same thing when my Mom was pregnant with me. It’s a new responsibility for him, something he’s having trouble comprehending. He’s relaying this by being very distant. I’d take a time with him, sit him down, and inform him that no matter what happens, you two (and soon three) are going to be okay. Also let him know that you really need him throughout this time. But be sure to put it across to him that if he doesn’t halt his distant actions towards you, that you are willing to pick up and find someone who will support, love and help you through this time. That’s just my thoughts.
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I have a hunch that he’s nervous about becoming a father, he may be trying to distract himself from what he’s going to have to do as a father. I think he’ll get over this eventually, he may just need time to adjust. Talk more about plans with him, try to get him really excited about his child. He has a lot of things he could have a say in, from the baby’s toys, to the clothes, and what color the room wiil be painted. If he helps you with all that, he may be spending so much time with you that you get sick of him.
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Some men take a while to adjust to the fact that u are still a woman and not just a mother or mother to be.My ex husband went through the same thing.I would suggest talking to him about it and maybe talking to a counselor.He also may have fears about fatherhood….is a big step. Take care of yourself and your unborn child. Good luck.
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well youll probably make things worse if ya push it!!!!I wont tell ya nothig except go with the flo and good luck!!!!!!!
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